What A Wonderful Day!

“Every child born into the world is a new thought of God, an ever fresh and radiant possibility” Kate Douglas Wiggin

Today I went to my nephew Andy’s fiance’s Bridal Shower. It was a wonderful day! The hostess, Andy’s aunt on his dad’s side, was amazing. Her house, the shower treats and decor…everything was perfect. I love the woman Andy is marrying. Her name is Trisha and she’s smart and witty, considerate, lovely and funny! She is his other half, his bookend.

What made the day doubly special is we got to go around the porch in a circle and say who we were and how we knew Andy, what relation we were to him. I never thought about what I might say. I listened to the others, joined in the fun and watched the look of delight, love and laughter on Trisha’s face when we spoke of him.

Then came my turn…I couldn’t believe what I said. I said that Andy came along in a very low point in my life. My own little son had died and I was sick with sorrow. I spent so much time with my sister Suzy and little Andy, they were my best friends…and my heart healed as I spent time with this wonderful little boy. I said Andy restored my heart.

I was a bit embarrassed for bringing up the death of my little boy at such a joyous occasion, but my words came straight from the heart. I love my nephew and thank my sister for being so very generous with him.

What a gift! And what a beautiful way to bring me back from the land of mourning. A wonderful, happy, healthy baby boy a year younger than my Davey gave me back my heart!

Thank you God for using him in my life this way…I pray you bless his and Trisha’s life most wonderfully! It was an awesome day!


The Love of My Life

My Love For 32+ Years and Best Friend!

“Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love NEVER FAILS!” I Corinthians 13:7-8a

Thirty-two years ago on July 27th, my husband Mike and I recited the entire chapter of I Corinthians 13 back and forth to either during our wedding ceremony. The LOVE Chapter of the New Testament laid the groundwork for our marriage and we have treasured these words of God ever since.

It has kept our marriage strong in the love of God and our love for each other. A love not born of selfishness, but rather giving. A love not filled with jealousy, one upsmanship, or jockeying for position. Not filled with who is right and who is wrong, but rather consolation and support.

We have been there for each other through the tough times and celebrated in them midst of them. Now we enjoy a deeper friendship, respect, joy and passion than I thought it was possible to know on this earth.

My husband, Mike likes this quote from Gale Sayers: “The Lord is first, my family is second, and I am third.” He doesn’t just like the quote, he lives it. And his family, my daughter and I reap the benefits, the support, the love…I return it by having his back as he has mine.

Is loving unconditionally possible for human beings? I have lived it and I know it is. By the power of God alone, we can put him first, each other second and ourselves last.

That is the secret of our marriage, putting each other first, having fun together, being best friends as well as lovers. The Lord, the support of family and friends provide for the rest of this loving community.

I treasure our days together. Yesterday was special, but so are they all! Unconditional love, forgiveness, fun and lots of hugs and kisses are the order of the day at the Sweiger household. Thank you God for being there for us and for the wonderful gift of each other!

I’ve Met the Twitter Stream #Usguys!

We put childhood pictures up on Valentines #Usguys

“A child of five would understand this. Send someone to fetch a child of five.” Groucho Marx — LOL

To get in touch with the innocence of childhood we put up childhood pictures of ourselves on Valentine’s Day. I loved it! Haven’t been satisfied with my Twitter “grown-up” Avatar since.

Being on Twitter is a lot of fun. Anyone who knows me or who has ever read this blog know I derive a terrific amount of enjoyment from it. A couple of weeks ago a nice looking guy with a long name by Twitter standards @StephenCaggiano asked me to join the #Usguys stream on Twitter. It was a, “Come on in the water’s fine”-kind of friendly invitation — which belied the intellectual sophistication of the group. I couldn’t resist, so I did. They’re a great bunch — very friendly and carrying on conversations rich in content on social media, techie stuff, customer service, you name it 24/7. I wasn’t always joining in because I’m new and I couldn’t see a good place to plunge into. Now often I do and will usually snag someone to have a great conversation with. That is what is so fun about Twitter. Pulling someone out of the stream for a little one on one, or two or three. #Usguys and they are very adept at it. It isn’t surprising to see 5 – 6 conversations going on at once under the #Usguys hashtag with 2-3 people mentioned in each, linking each other together by Twitter name to keep everyone informed of what each other is saying. This may sound a bit confusing! You really have to see it!

Why don’t you so a search for #Usguys and see what you turn up! Fascinating, illuminating and funny tweets 24/7 I’ll guarantee. They could almost advertise it. Well I guess I am!

Here’s a link for more information: http://stephenjcaggiano.com/2011/01/26/usguys-directory/

Best Friends Finally Meet!

Good friends meet at last!

“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: “What! You too? I thought I was the only one.”
β€” C.S. Lewis

Last week was one of the funnest ever in my life! And meaningful! And active! A non-stop crazy-girlfriends stupendous, exciting chat and shop — eat and drink pop, do toenails, have slumber parties extravaganza! My friend from twitter and Facebook, Heather @AliveinMe flew into Minneapolis from Philadelphia last Saturday and stayed the week! In that time she found a BIG place in me and my dear husband’s heart! We will never be the same again. So endearing she was to our family…we miss her and my 80-year-old mom misses her. Mom has dementia and doesn’t remember people well. But, she remembers Heather. We talk about her every day!

We had such a great time! Ordained by the Author of all great fun and great plans for us! The Lord was so good to us…kept us from sniffles though the weather was frightfully cold. We stayed up until the early morning hours making beaded necklaces! And talking. Always talking. Like we had known each other forever. And we have! Virtually!

We raced through the week like our tails were on fire. Trying to absorb all we could from each other. Making necklaces (our favorite ones to give to each other), many went to me since I was a newbie at beading. I was keeping my attempts and Heather was showering me with gifts, not for any other reason than two generous hearts meeting and reaching out to each other with the true love of Jesus! I kept her supplied with tea, water, pop, her every need, so she could rest and stay well and jam making jewelry for her mom’s shop. We chatted and laughed and talked and smiled and enjoyed immensely each others company! Oh yes, and took about 100 pictures! Which we kept posting on Facebook! πŸ™‚ We did our own nails and toes but counted on department stores for new makeup and trying each others brands like long-lost sisters sharing their secrets! We hit the best beading shop the first day to stock up for the necklace making nights and we fared well! I now have 10 for myself and Heather has 30 to sell at her mom’s store! My math has never been great, but I’m not sure I contributed to the profit margin. πŸ™‚ Oh well, I will, I am carrying on…it is such fun!

My dear friend’s gone home to her family. My husband Mike and I are missing her. I am quite lonesome, but there are remembrances all around the house, an artificial flower arrangement I love with butterflies in it. I bought her one at the same time and we didn’t know it until we got in the car! A beautiful glass pitcher threaded with blue and green transparent color from my favorite shop. She has left little parts of her love and joy everywhere. We hope she returns very soon, or we will get in my car and drive to Philly! Chilly Philly! Love you all! Facebook and Twitter friends! Take a chance and get to know each other better! Love you Heather so aptly named @AliveinMe. You are sure aLIVE, full of joy and love and definitely glowing in Jesus. As for me @libbytalks, it has now been confirmed that I can talk all day and all night too!

Best Friends Forever!

A Poem To My Friend: Rough Spots

“They” say life is a series of peaks and valleys,
just ride it out over the rough spots!

But what are you to do —
when you’re lost in the mountains
And the light just isn’t shining through?

All you can do is climb to the Peak
Take a look at all that has been,
Consider your beautiful rolling hills
Among the long, sorrow-filled valleys.

Remind yourself you hiked through many
a rough spot in the valleys and still made it
to climb to the top of the Mountain of Reflection!

You are stronger than you thought you were —
While climbing over the rough spots below.

Strong enough to climb to the height of discovery.
To see all the great and wonderful things in your life —
And what else? A companion by your side!

Your Highest Power was beside you all way!
You can see your companion near the top of the mountain,
catching you before you fall into a ravine.

You were NEVER alone. Friends were rooting for you. You
had your inner strength and your Companion by your side.
You made it and you will be able to do it again.

Enjoy the mountaintop for a while,
and then begin the slow and careful descent
home and back into your life.

“There is nothing I would not do for those who are really my friends…

Wonderful, loving Birthday Lunch!

“There is nothing I would not do for those who are really my friends. I have no notion of loving people by halves, it is not my nature.”
β€” Jane Austen
We had a wonderful birthday party this year. One of the girls couldn’t come, but the truest friends came, the ones who haven’t missed one lunch in 27 years and we had a time full of laughter, touching moments and even tears! One of the gals was really struggling and we were the Jane Austen quote in action! We did not love her by halves, but completely and gave her all of our support! It brought home to me the way I have felt for a long time about these dear friends:

I would do anything, within my core values, for these women! They are real friends. Friends you can call up early in the morning and wake them up and they won’t get mad! They’ll listen to your problem. Friends who will bring you groceries if there’s too much month at the end of your money, back when times were harder. Friends you would do the same things for and more, any time, any place. Friends who would be there one of our perfect marriages ever blew up in our face. Friends you would stand up for if anyone tried to put them down in any way! Friends who stand by you at the loss of a parent — or heaven forbid a child, or have a heartbreaking problem with one. We are true, loyal, on each other’s sides, real friends. And we are so thankful to have each other!

These are the friends that were at my birthday lunch and we had a blessed time. We had an inspired, wonderful, life-affirming time. We gave each other the best present a friend can give one another: the Gift of Love!

Here’s the celebratory dessert we shared!
Hurray for us!

It’s Almost My Birthday!

“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” β€” Albert Einstein

Birthdays are a time for Celebration!

Birthdays are a time for celebration and reflection! I love birthdays! This year as in every year for the past 27 — I am getting together with my 3 best girlfriends for lunch. None of them knew each other when we started out, but we’ve had lunches full of laughter and caring from the beginning. By now we’re having so much fun we can hardly contain ourselves. Buying each other funny/insulting old age cards. Laughing all through lunch. Exchanging pictures and catching up on anything we might have missed the past year gone by! We have priceless, irreplaceable friendships and have stood together during first love, weddings, first babies, painful divorce, loss of parents and even siblings. We are friends to the end and bring each other terrific support and such joy!

As far as reflection goes, on my birthday, I take the time to assess my life and thank God for every part of it. My life has been wonderful from the beginning to the middle. I love my family, my friends and the Lord. They are all so delightfully funny and nice and good. Including God? Sure, He has always had a great sense of humor I have found, and niceness and goodness supplied in abundance.

This all takes time. You cannot jam this type of celebrating and thinking and going out to lunches and dinners into one busy day. And Father’s Day too, because of the closeness to my birthday! And opening funny cards…so I always celebrate for 2, 3, sometime 4 weeks! πŸ™‚

Have a Happy Day all and remember to savor your life and your birthdays!

Friends Are Heart Treasures

My Best Buddy and I

I really couldn’t make it without my friends! To me they are heart treasures. Their love is unconditional even though they know you better than anyone else. “A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.” β€” Elbert Hubbard This quote puts it perfectly! I have lots of acquaintances, fewer friends. You know them by the way they laugh with you not at you, may not always agree with you, but always empathize — listen to you ramble on when many people would get bored and leave the room πŸ™‚ — laugh at your jokes and cry with you too. Sometimes the tears turn to laughter! I treasure these qualities in people, my heart treasures them because they make my heart happy!

The gal in the picture here is Lynn. She will be at the birthday party described above. She is a wonderful best friend! We’ve know each other since Junior High and have always had a blast together! She has a great sense of humor — I love to laugh! We lean on each other, go to each other for advice and share insights when we get one! She’s the best!

You can have fast friends too — people you just hit it off with immediately and a friendship sprouts. I have terrific friends on Twitter and Facebook whom I have never met. I know that people who don’t have these types of friends find this hard to believe, so put it another way. I have people from my High School, who I didn’t even hardly know back then who have become my good at friends on Facebook as adults. Plausible, right? It’s not really that different. We didn’t “know” each other when we started to connect as adults either, just had a vague recollection of a childhood self in common. Now we are excellent friends. I’ve acquainted myself with some old High School friends and am very close to them now, ie: Kathleen and Betsy, Barb and Sandy. I also have great friends on Facebook who I only know on that venue and we have been dear friends for a while, some for years: Celisa and Heather new friends — Miriam, Karen, Carol, Nenette and Mark I’ve known longer — all true heart treasures!

I have excellent friends on Twitter who I have more in common with than some of my friends — and we interact more often due to the way Twitter works. I would like to honor some of these friends, they are: @SuuperG, @angels510 @AliveinMe, @RichardBejah, @nursemom90, @RetiredTeacherD, @_stoicOne_ @MAX_is_more @callomes @DamienCripps and @joebrochin. These people are treasures to all who know them and they do make ones heart happy!

When I count my blessings, right after my relationship with my Lord and my wonderful family, I thank God for my friends! I hope you have many heart treasures too!

“Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact.”

My Funny Friends B-Day Party

“Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact. ” William James Quote
I love this quote! It is so very true! I was having coffee with a friend other day and she was mentioning that she didn’t really want to live that long…I was astonished. I said why not. She said, life is hard I wouldn’t mind being in heaven with my mom right now. I said, “Oh no, I want to live as long as I can, I love life!” She replied that she knew that I felt that way and she couldn’t understand it, with all the hardships I have had. I said Oh, not really! She gasped! It’s true that I have had many challenges with my health, 3 surgeries in the past 4 years, etc. Financial challenges because I haven’t been able to work, stuff like that and that’s the recent situations, but goodness I LOVE LIFE. I always have. Life is the best thing around on this earth after all! I look forward to heaven someday and seeingΒ  my little son David again, but I don’t want to be cheated out of one joy-filled moment on this earth. Never! I love life because it’s so fun! Laughs to be had! Precious time with family! My dear funny husband! The sunshine! Snow in the winter! I love everything about it…I don’t mind the challenges. Visiting my mom who has Alzheimer is hard but she is still loving and precious and for now still remembers me! She still has her sense ofΒ  humor.Β  Actually she’s getting funnier!

I know my friend is tired. She’s an only child and spends a great deal of time taking care of her dad who just transferred into assisted living– finally. She takes so much time with him and always has him to Sunday dinner. She’s very conscientious. I’m more of a goof off than she is. I always make time for relaxation and fun. I’m going to give her this great quote though for our birthdays, we and two other gals party together every year.

That’s another thing if you left this earth too early — think of all the parties you’d miss? I don’t like to think about that. Well that about sums it up be sure to believe your life is fun and definitely worth living for believing will make it so!