Easter Reflections: The Death of a Son

Davey at 6 months

I was with my lovely daughter today. She drove down from Duluth, MN to Minnetonka, Mn see us on Easter. She is delightful, loving and the best daughter any mom could ask for. She’s the child I dreamed about and prayed for. I enjoyed the day immensely.

“I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge. That myth is more potent than history. That dreams are more powerful than facts. That hope always triumphs over experience. That laughter is the only cure for grief. And I believe that love is stronger than death.” — Robert Fulghum

Next to her picture on the mantel, is one of her brother. I could not help reflecting on my dear little son, who’s been in Heaven for the past 30+ years. He only lived eleven months. He was such a precious child like his sister. Desperately sick with a bad heart, yet such a brave and strong spirit. A joy-filled, loving, wonderful child.

And because it’s Easter I was thinking about the Son that died for us. What the Father lost. What He did for us that we might have fellowship with Him. I am so touched to the core, by the love that He showed in sacrificing His only son.

The death of a loved one is hard to bear and doesn’t lessen with time in some ways. I went to a grief class years ago and they said grieving is like a taffy pull, one minute you’re fine and then you snap back to the worst sadness again.

Comfort IS found in Joy and Laughter. I do believe the above quote is true and the author most insightful. When I think of my son I remember his laugh, his wise eyes, his depth of understanding for a life he was really too young to understand. He was a wonderful gift to me and his father. And perhaps there we find our joy. In the gifts that we experience, in the love that we share, in spite of the grief that comes with loving.

This Easter day I remember my David and his precious life. My Savior and His precious Love for us all — and my heart is filled with the enormous gift my life is.


I’ve Met the Twitter Stream #Usguys!

We put childhood pictures up on Valentines #Usguys

“A child of five would understand this. Send someone to fetch a child of five.” Groucho Marx — LOL

To get in touch with the innocence of childhood we put up childhood pictures of ourselves on Valentine’s Day. I loved it! Haven’t been satisfied with my Twitter “grown-up” Avatar since.

Being on Twitter is a lot of fun. Anyone who knows me or who has ever read this blog know I derive a terrific amount of enjoyment from it. A couple of weeks ago a nice looking guy with a long name by Twitter standards @StephenCaggiano asked me to join the #Usguys stream on Twitter. It was a, “Come on in the water’s fine”-kind of friendly invitation — which belied the intellectual sophistication of the group. I couldn’t resist, so I did. They’re a great bunch — very friendly and carrying on conversations rich in content on social media, techie stuff, customer service, you name it 24/7. I wasn’t always joining in because I’m new and I couldn’t see a good place to plunge into. Now often I do and will usually snag someone to have a great conversation with. That is what is so fun about Twitter. Pulling someone out of the stream for a little one on one, or two or three. #Usguys and they are very adept at it. It isn’t surprising to see 5 – 6 conversations going on at once under the #Usguys hashtag with 2-3 people mentioned in each, linking each other together by Twitter name to keep everyone informed of what each other is saying. This may sound a bit confusing! You really have to see it!

Why don’t you so a search for #Usguys and see what you turn up! Fascinating, illuminating and funny tweets 24/7 I’ll guarantee. They could almost advertise it. Well I guess I am!

Here’s a link for more information: http://stephenjcaggiano.com/2011/01/26/usguys-directory/

Best Friends Finally Meet!

Good friends meet at last!

“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: “What! You too? I thought I was the only one.”
โ€” C.S. Lewis

Last week was one of the funnest ever in my life! And meaningful! And active! A non-stop crazy-girlfriends stupendous, exciting chat and shop — eat and drink pop, do toenails, have slumber parties extravaganza! My friend from twitter and Facebook, Heather @AliveinMe flew into Minneapolis from Philadelphia last Saturday and stayed the week! In that time she found a BIG place in me and my dear husband’s heart! We will never be the same again. So endearing she was to our family…we miss her and my 80-year-old mom misses her. Mom has dementia and doesn’t remember people well. But, she remembers Heather. We talk about her every day!

We had such a great time! Ordained by the Author of all great fun and great plans for us! The Lord was so good to us…kept us from sniffles though the weather was frightfully cold. We stayed up until the early morning hours making beaded necklaces! And talking. Always talking. Like we had known each other forever. And we have! Virtually!

We raced through the week like our tails were on fire. Trying to absorb all we could from each other. Making necklaces (our favorite ones to give to each other), many went to me since I was a newbie at beading. I was keeping my attempts and Heather was showering me with gifts, not for any other reason than two generous hearts meeting and reaching out to each other with the true love of Jesus! I kept her supplied with tea, water, pop, her every need, so she could rest and stay well and jam making jewelry for her mom’s shop. We chatted and laughed and talked and smiled and enjoyed immensely each others company! Oh yes, and took about 100 pictures! Which we kept posting on Facebook! ๐Ÿ™‚ We did our own nails and toes but counted on department stores for new makeup and trying each others brands like long-lost sisters sharing their secrets! We hit the best beading shop the first day to stock up for the necklace making nights and we fared well! I now have 10 for myself and Heather has 30 to sell at her mom’s store! My math has never been great, but I’m not sure I contributed to the profit margin. ๐Ÿ™‚ Oh well, I will, I am carrying on…it is such fun!

My dear friend’s gone home to her family. My husband Mike and I are missing her. I am quite lonesome, but there are remembrances all around the house, an artificial flower arrangement I love with butterflies in it. I bought her one at the same time and we didn’t know it until we got in the car! A beautiful glass pitcher threaded with blue and green transparent color from my favorite shop. She has left little parts of her love and joy everywhere. We hope she returns very soon, or we will get in my car and drive to Philly! Chilly Philly! Love you all! Facebook and Twitter friends! Take a chance and get to know each other better! Love you Heather so aptly named @AliveinMe. You are sure aLIVE, full of joy and love and definitely glowing in Jesus. As for me @libbytalks, it has now been confirmed that I can talk all day and all night too!

Best Friends Forever!

My Dad’s an Author Twice!

Author Twice! My Dad - Bill Baker

“Some of these stores are humorous, some involve pathos, some are illuminating, some resulted in hospital confinement and some just portray the human condition.” So says my dad in the introduction of his new book “The Guide Shoots First”. It’s a collection of stories of his trips to hunt waterfowl and upland birds in the Dakotas, Montana and Canada, including a camp he ran in the Dakotas. I really love the book and recommend it heartily. I am not saying this because he is my dad — which he is — but simply because it is so well-written, witty, and moving — a real page-turner. Frankly, I hate to admit something. It takes a bit to get me to read a book these days, with my online business, writing and family responsibilities. Lying down is one of my favorite past-times! So I was pleasantly surprised to finding myself so enjoying a book of hunting stories. Of course, not very surprised, because I know my dad is a consummate storyteller. Flawless really. I’d just never read these stories before. They came so very alive and were so funny and quick. I know my dad is — just didn’t know he would translate so well and he does.

If you have an interest in fathers and how they relate to their sons. The great outdoors. A good book filled with the vivid vignettes William Baker can lay down, you definitely want to check his website and take a further look at this. And at least discover where the title came from!

Here’s the website: http://theguideshootsfirst.com — Oh it’s on the blogroll!!! ๐Ÿ™‚


Friends Are Heart Treasures

My Best Buddy and I

I really couldn’t make it without my friends! To me they are heart treasures. Their love is unconditional even though they know you better than anyone else. “A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.” โ€” Elbert Hubbard This quote puts it perfectly! I have lots of acquaintances, fewer friends. You know them by the way they laugh with you not at you, may not always agree with you, but always empathize — listen to you ramble on when many people would get bored and leave the room ๐Ÿ™‚ — laugh at your jokes and cry with you too. Sometimes the tears turn to laughter! I treasure these qualities in people, my heart treasures them because they make my heart happy!

The gal in the picture here is Lynn. She will be at the birthday party described above. She is a wonderful best friend! We’ve know each other since Junior High and have always had a blast together! She has a great sense of humor — I love to laugh! We lean on each other, go to each other for advice and share insights when we get one! She’s the best!

You can have fast friends too — people you just hit it off with immediately and a friendship sprouts. I have terrific friends on Twitter and Facebook whom I have never met. I know that people who don’t have these types of friends find this hard to believe, so put it another way. I have people from my High School, who I didn’t even hardly know back then who have become my good at friends on Facebook as adults. Plausible, right? It’s not really that different. We didn’t “know” each other when we started to connect as adults either, just had a vague recollection of a childhood self in common. Now we are excellent friends. I’ve acquainted myself with some old High School friends and am very close to them now, ie: Kathleen and Betsy, Barb and Sandy. I also have great friends on Facebook who I only know on that venue and we have been dear friends for a while, some for years: Celisa and Heather new friends — Miriam, Karen, Carol, Nenette and Mark I’ve known longer — all true heart treasures!

I have excellent friends on Twitter who I have more in common with than some of my friends — and we interact more often due to the way Twitter works. I would like to honor some of these friends, they are: @SuuperG, @angels510 @AliveinMe, @RichardBejah, @nursemom90, @RetiredTeacherD, @_stoicOne_ @MAX_is_more @callomes @DamienCripps and @joebrochin. These people are treasures to all who know them and they do make ones heart happy!

When I count my blessings, right after my relationship with my Lord and my wonderful family, I thank God for my friends! I hope you have many heart treasures too!

There’s Something So Funny About Twitter To Non-Tweeters!

Love my Friends!

People who aren’t on Twitter really think we’re strange don’t they? They might ask, “How many people are following you on Twitter?” And if you say 7,000 they look at you like you have two heads. How did you get that many people to follow you they might exclaim?!!! Meaning, how did you ever get that interesting? What on earth do you say to them? They just don’t get it at all, the depth of friendship, the fun of tweeting, the compelling draw that is Twitter! I can hardly wait to have 17,000 followers, that will throw them. Might render them speechless. Well, of course I can wait. No following formulas or software for me. I am letting my accounts grow organically, naturally, the way they should. ย It was the same way with Facebook years ago, no one could figure that out at all, now everyone and their cousin is on Facebook. It’s fun, but not as exciting, challenging or close-knit as Twitter. No one calls you Sweetie or gives you HUGGS or MWAHS! like Twitter.

I like the atmosphere of ย Twitter. I like my friends, many of whom I feel I know quite well. I like the verbal matching of wits and the truly funny people! Like I said about followers, the more the merrier, but I will meet people one by one so I can get to know them and their hopes and interests, have a chat and remember them always. One thing I’ve learned is the mind is so expansive…the more you learn and the more people you meet the more room there is for other thoughts and more friends! Gotta love a place that teaches you lessons like that!

Life on Twitter #FollowFriday

Follow Friday on Twitter is so much fun. The purpose of it is to take the time to tell your friends; who you love to follow on Twitter and why — and recommend they follow them too! It doesn’t always function at its highest level. People often just tweet a list of names with the #FF hash tags automatically asking their friends to follow them. But nonetheless it is a fun day of sharing on Twitter!

I had a lot of fun this past Friday. My publicity account, @Publicity_Chick was getting more attention than her older sister, my main account @libbytalks. It was a delightful day! Just answering and acknowledging the Follow Fridays from P_C and making my own was exciting enough, and keeping up with libbytalks too! Things were hopping. I love the meeting new people aspect of the day, as well as talking to friends you don’t talk to everyday!l

I hope you’ll join in on the next #FF and have some fun with us…or if you haven’t joined Twitter yet, please do! Meet the friendliest people on the internet. I’ll introduce you to my friends! Come on, what are you waiting for?